Alright, brace yourselves.
I’m about to say something controversial.
I know a lot of you won’t agree with what I have to say, but please – hear me out. And hear my heart in it for you.
I think you should dress to please your significant other.
Yep. I know, I know. You’re an independent woman, you don’t live in the 1950s, you don’t need a man to tell you what you can and can’t wear. I gotcha. And you’re totally right.
One of the things that I want for each and every one of you is to live a life where you are wildly passionate about your spouse. Where he is wildly passionate about you.
And part of the turn on, like it or not, is physical.
I want you (and me!) to still be crazy for your husband years from now when you’re old and gray. And it’s easy for us to say, “Love should be enough. He should love for me who I am. He took a vow to love me for better or worse. We love Jesus, and people who love Jesus will always love each other.” And while that should be true, it’s a load of baloney if you want to remain together.
I love my husband like crazy. But it takes work to be in a relationship that’s thriving. Not all of our 12 years together have been made up of sunshine and roses. It takes an effort.
I talked about this a bit in this post – how he goes off to an office each and every day in a space filled with professionally dressed women. He travels for work, and attends conferences and trade shows in rooms filled with professionally dressed women. He goes out at night for dinner while traveling, and there are restaurants filled with attractive, well dressed women.
Who do I want him thinking about when he’s away? Me. Not me in my sweatpants. Me, his wife who takes time to put herself together. I remember putting thought into everything I wore when we were first dating. I wanted him to find me attractive. Why would I stop when he put a ring on my finger?
I’m not saying that every day has to be a runway show. And I’m not encouraging you to be a slave to fashion. And I’m DEFINITELY not saying that if he strays, it’s your fault because you didn’t put on enough cute outfits. But find out what he likes you in. And make an effort to wear it. Because doing what you can to continue to have the hots for each other is worth it.
I often write about how my husband thinks half of what I wear is nutty. And I wear them anyway, because I like them. Ed HATES my bird shirt. Like, seriously, loathes it. So I got rid of it. I wear what I want, but I also try to accommodate his likes.
And for heaven’s sake – encourage your hubby to reciprocate. If he never puts effort into himself, that’s no fun for you either. Both of you should take the time to wear what the other finds attractive, because you should want to want him, and he should want to want you, and there are too many distractions in this world to not put the work into fighting to keep your passion alive.
shoes – TOMS c/o Apricot Lane, jeans – J Crew, bracelet – The Vintage Gypsy, top – c/o Flaunt Accessories, vest – Banana Republic (similar – nearly identical), earrings – Wild Ruffle Shop (available by special request or at our upcoming shop opening!)
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