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You Deserve More Than Yoga Pants

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This post has been on my heart to write for years.

What stops me every time is that someone will mistake my well meaning for judgement.

But I want you to know something. I want you to know that you deserve more than yoga pants.

Now, hear me when I say that I love me some yoga pants. They’re comfy – what’s not to love?

But, speaking as a stay at home mom, I see so many women getting lost in the young mommy years. You wake up in the morning, and you think, “I’m only going to get covered in spit up, poop, goldfish cracker dust, fill in the blank here, etc. Why should I bother to shower and put on something cute?”

Or, “No one is going to see me today except my kids and husband. Why should I bother to get dressed?”

And honestly, the answer is because YOU deserve it.

It’s easy to make the transition to motherhood, and suddenly the girl who used to paint her nails and put on heels is lost in a world of burp cloths and dirty diapers. I’ve been there. I’m a mother to an 8 year old, and 4 year old twins – and believe me, there have been many days where we don’t get out of our jammies (until we change into new jammies for bed).

Parenting is a wonderful, glorious, amazing thing – but is not your only thing. You are more than the person who wipes the butts.

It’s nice to feel put together sometimes – even if that ‘put together’ is running a brush through your hair and putting on real pants.

You are a woman, and it’s lovely to feel feminine.

And I’m not gonna lie, I like it when my husband comes home, after being in an office all day with a bunch of well dressed ladies, and sees a well dressed wife. Just like I don’t want to forget who I am after having children, I don’t want him to forget either.

When I had my first child, I made a promise to myself that I would take a shower every day, and always get dressed. Years later, I’ve realized that it’s less about setting a specific goal, and more about my mindset. I’m totally ok with the times that I live in yoga pants. But I want there to be more days that I take the time that I deserve to make myself feed good.

It doesn’t have to take much effort to feel put together. A messy bun on top of my head (like I’ve worn here), or a high pony (like I did here) is super simple and makes a difference.

Leggings and oversized tees (as in this look) are every bit as comfy as pajamas, but are a whole lot more acceptable in public. Or find a cozy cotton dress – this one is as comfortable as sweats and is one of my go-to outfits with flats or heels.

Adding accessories is an easy way to finish a look. Pair anything with an infinity scarf and you’re set. Below is an easy combination for everyday wear.

winning combination for an everyday outfit

You don’t have to get dressed for just anyone – but you are worth getting dressed for yourself.

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  1. Oh you know how with you I am on this! So many women that I know who stay home have COMPLETELY lost themselves. And sometimes, it starts with the littlest of things…feeling pretty. A little makeup, getting out of the yoga pants. And it’s not judgey it’s all about YOUR self-esteem.
    LOVED this. Sharing.

  2. I love this! Thank you… the days I work I get ready and boy do I feel like I can conquer the world. I agree that it is so important to take care of yourself however becoming a mom and making sacrifice, even when it comes to yourself, is a character trait that I appreciate in myself as I know my teen self needed a healthy dose of self worth measured from my successes and not physical appearance. Great article- keep it up!

    Live, Love, & Capture.

    Ashleigh Rachel

  3. I love this post for several reasons. I love it because it’s not judgmental & if it’s taken that way, it might because you’ve hit a nerve. I’m a stay-at-home mom & it’s a fact that when I take better care of myself I’m a better mom. Now, I do love my yoga pants. And sometimes all I need is a nice statement necklace paired with my yoga pants & I’m all set. 😉 Great post lady.

  4. Great post! I found your blog through Amber — a fellow twin mommy! I was doing pretty good getting dressed everyday (and I totally believe it’s important) until I had my twin boys 12 weeks ago. Since then, I’ve turned into the “living in yoga pants” mommy who can barely shower. Some of it is the season of life, but mostly, I fear I’m slipping into some bad habits because it seems fruitless. More so than doing it for myself even, I want to get dressed to set the example for my sons and to also value my role as wife. Thanks for the encouragement!

  5. ….reading this as I hold my sleeping 3 month old baby…with my hair in a wet bun…no makeup (yet)…and in my fat, black yoga pants. Hey, at least I went to the gym and showered!! Love your blog girls! 🙂

  6. I love this! For so many reasons! There is nothing like a smile on my hubby’s face as he walks through the door and I can see that he is still “wow’ed” He likes the yoga pants though 😉 Obsessed actually.

  7. That is why I started my blog! I am a mom and I work at home (after 10 years of working as a labor nurse in scrubs). I was so sick of wearing running pants!! I dont get dressed up every day, but it sure makes me feel better when I do! Love the florals!! I always feel more feminine in florals! Susan

  8. I think this was beautifully written. I’ve always been an advocate that it’s just as easy to be comfortable in pretty clothes as it is to be comforable in ugly clothes–if you’ve developed a closet full of clothes that are both pretty and comfy that is, there’s no need to have “comfort” clothes and then “pretty but uncomfortable and impractical” clothes if they can be combined!

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