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October 6, 2014

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October 6, 2014

Ssh! Don’t Tell Anyone… But I’m Not Perfect

October 6, 2014
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The other day, my son dumped a giant scoopful of his hair gel in his sister’s hair. And good golly, I lost it.

The events preceding this incident are as follows: Husband traveled off and on for the entire month of Sept. Saturday was jam packed with activities, beginning with soccer at 9 am, and ending with friends leaving my home after midnight. Sunday began with church, where I volunteered in children’s church, then went fish shopping for a 9 year old friend, hosted two neighbor kids… and then all hell broke loose.

The kids started running around the house, tearing up what I was trying to clean for the imminent arrival of the husband. My oldest (the one who is usually the most well behaved) filled our neighbor’s shoe with hair gel. Said neighbor then freaked out and ran around the kitchen with it. Then my son scooped out that gel and smeared it ALL OVER HIS SISTER.

Did I mention that this happened 2 minutes before we were supposed to leave for dance pictures? Pictures of the girl with the grease pit for a head?

So I lost it. I yelled at the neighbors to leave. Then I yelled at my kids because they were making my life difficult. And I yelled because I was mad at myself because I didn’t have things under control.

Upon arriving at dance pictures (late, because I had to wash my daughter’s hair 3 times to get the funk out), I shared my story. And the first thing another mom said was, “Oh, I’m so glad to hear you freaked out. I totally had you pegged as a perfect mom.”


Am I living my life in such a way that nobody can see my flaws? Have I hidden them so well that people can’t see what’s real in me?

Part of me would rather have you think that I’m a top candidate for World’s Best Mom, but most of me – most of me wants you to know that I stumble. That I have many moments where I don’t rock it. I want to share what’s real and true and honest.

Because that’s the only way we grow. And that’s the only way I can find support. And authentic friendship.

I’d love to think that I’m the mom who patiently explains to their son that wiping crud on his sister moments before we have some place to be isn’t making a wise decision. But the reality is that I’m a yeller when pushed to the brink.

So, in the spirit of sharing, whatcha got for me? Who wants to share their secrets of when they fell short of perfection? I’d love to hear it in the comments below.

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boots – Steve Madden (similar); bag – c/o Free Endearment; belt, jeans, and top (similar) – J Crew; necklace – Wild Ruffle

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  1. Love your honesty, Cate. I can completely relate. No one is perfect–no matter how “perfect” social media makes us look. 🙂 Also, LOVE your outfit.

  2. Is there a day I don’t fall short? I’ve got into screaming matches with my 16 year old, and have made my daughter think I was ignoring her. We do learn and grow from it. I just wish it wasn’t so hard!

  3. Sounds too familiar! I do a whole series of this on my blog! There is surly something in my stash of confessions that is BOUND to make you feel better! I’ll meet you at the MOY award ceremony! ;)

  4. Man, I wanted those boots! And sorry you had a breakdown day.. we all have them! But it sound slike oyu are doing a great job in keeping your cool most of the time! 😉

  5. Well, how long can my comment section be? Cuz I feel like I “fall short” of being the kind of mother that I desire to be on a very regular basis! Ask Tammy…she knows.

  6. Oh man, I am NOT a patient person so I am so nervous of moments like this. It’s good to know that other moms are not perfect! I am so thankful for God’s grace – I know I will need it so much as a parent! By the way, you look lovely and the trees in the background are so pretty!

  7. I totally hear you on this, my girls are still both small and close in age so there are days where it’s utterly exhausting and frustrating! That comment would bug me too, it’s unfortunate that sometimes if you are put together or very kind people can mistake this with being ‘too perfect’ or fake.
    Thanks for sharing this and by the way I love this outfit, perfect for fall!!

  8. Chris is always embarrassed in the summer and our neighbors can hear us (me) disciplining our kids. I finally talked to my neighbors (who don’t have kids) and said, listen, sometimes we yell at our kids. We try not to, but it’s bound to happen. If you hear us, I apologize, but it won’t stop me. And they were actually happy that we do. Parents have the right to lose it at least once a week!

  9. This outfit is fabulous and you look just stunning! I love that top! Now, let me tell you that none of us is perfect. God loves every single one of us imperfect moms(: I have an only child, so no sibling madness here. But we have other teen issues. Just know that you are not alone. And I think you dress perfectly(: Susan

  10. Love this look, the pretty printed top, and love those boots, the way they fold over ,I just love boots!! Dark jeans are so attractive on you. As far as what happened, oh gosh, when I was a kid, I my mom was on the phone and I went in and said my bro and I were playing doc, then I toldher on the phone, I was playing barber, I cut his hair in all these little patches, and he had bald spots!1 Your daughter made it We all make mistakes regardless. I felt like in my teaching career that I never was perfect, the administration made sure to that. Music was not considered important and I felt like nothing I could do was right. So, it happens to everyone.
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    please stop by, jess

  11. It’s amazing how something as little as hair gel can make a sane person jump off the deep end, I’ve totally been there and it happens to the best of us!

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