I hung out with an old friend the other day – I haven’t seen her in a long time and it was lovely to catch up.
Every time we get together we pick up right where we’ve left off, even if we haven’t been together in forever. It’s the kind of friendship that you cherish, because it’s one that you know will stand the test of time.
As catch up dates often go, we began talking about a variety of topics. Right before we wrapped up, we talked about personal growth. And I realized that I have grown a lot in recent years.
Maybe it’s the coming of my 40s (just a little over a year away). I’m not sure. But I’m growing into myself. I’m more confident. Less rattled by what others may think of me. Though I’ve got a ways to go before I let everything slide off my back without a care, I’ve realized that I cannot make everyone happy, and I’ve become ok with that.
A couple of years ago, I had a customer who came in and pointed out a flaw in my skin. It’s a flaw that I have obviously noticed myself, and I have always been super self conscious about it. She went on and on with suggestions about how I could improve it, oblivious to the fact that she was tearing me to shreds as she did so. The moment she left the shop I went into the back room and bawled.
But just last week, I had another customer say something unkind… something that would’ve sent me spiraling in the past. She caught yet another issue that I’ve struggled with over the years, and at one point I would’ve gone into a tailspin.
This time? I texted a friend to ask her to pray. And then I moved on.
I’m growing up. I’m able to process quickly and push through. I’m grateful to have reached this point in my life. The point where someone’s careless words won’t end up embedded in my very soul. I don’t have any secrets as to how to get there. But it sure feels good.
What I hope never to grow out of? My love of fashion. Like my love for this new top, found at Wild Ruffle. It’s only $24! And it’s the perfect color for spring and summer. Find it at the shop, or online here (also available in yellow).
top and necklace – the Wild Ruffle shop; shoes – c/o Shop Bop; jeans and bag (similar) – J Crew
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